As we celebrate the stellar performance and Oscar win for Lupita Nyong’o, here is an inspirational and poignant message that all of us need to take to heart!
It resonated so well with me as an African-American women who was raised in the 70s and 80s in a southern city where we Black women were and are often marginalized and never seen to be beautiful, where the standard was always based in European sensibilities. What a triumph, what a victory for us all!
Whenever my father calls, the first thing he says in his deep and resonant baritone voice,
“Hi there, little girl, this is your father!”
As though I would not know that! I am a 5’10” middle aged woman, and I’m still his “Little Girl” – go figure!
But I’ve got to tell you something… I am a Daddy’s girl! I know who I am because my Daddy loves me and I am blessed because he’s still here on this planet at the age of 77 year old as of this coming May! Even when my parents divorced, I never, ever questioned his love for me. THAT IS SO IMPORTANT for a little girl.
I know that so many of us have poor self esteems and relate to men so badly because, Daddy just wasn’t there. A good relationship with a man is really strongly tied to a woman’s relationship with her dad. It will affect how she relates to all men!
This video says it all… It really brought me back to the time when I was a little girl and my Daddy would go out of his way to play with me and my brother, and he really would get into!
I hope you too are a Daddy’s Girl too!
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
Remember to put the glass down
